“I used to have a hard time saying no. And being direct about what I wanted.
I often found myself accommodating others, doing things I didn’t want to do. This would lead to lingering resentment, and if it persisted, an explosion of blame and victimization.
If I finally confronted someone the response was usually, “Well, why didn’t you say something?!”
It’s a good point. People are not mind readers, nor should we expect them to be.